Ending any relationship is hard. It can be especially challenging if it’s with your therapist, someone with whom you’ve shared your deepest, most intimate feelings. But if you think you’re not making progress toward your goals – and especially if you leave therapy feeling worse, not better – it may be time to move on.
We’re not saying to give up on the idea of therapy. Instead of just ghosting or leaving your therapist cold, be open and honest about what’s not working. Here are a few suggestions on what you might say:
Recognize the progress you have made.
“I really appreciate the work we’ve done together and your willingness to help me. I do think I’ve made some improvements.”
Mention if something didn’t go right.
“A few weeks ago, I mentioned [insert concerns here]. I don’t see enough of a change for it to make sense that we continue our sessions.”
Be straightforward.
“I’m starting to think that I may need a different approach.” Or perhaps, “I have different goals right now, and I feel it’s time for me to move on.”
Since your current therapist knows your issues, you may ask them to recommend someone who might be a better fit for you. Keep trying until you find someone you can connect with.
Ready to make a change?
Here are some tips for choosing a counselor or therapist.
